Wednesday, December 13, 2006

Good night, Mother.

My mother passed away last night. Part of me is glad and mostly I am very sad - the glad is that she did not last long after she could no longer communicate, and the pain began to be too much. (Of course, it was being treated, but still....)

My Dad's description of her, when he wrote of her death, says it beautifully, I think.

Julie, my wife of 40 years, died today. She had been ill for a couple of years, but it wasn't until last month that she was diagnosed with untreatable lung cancer. Thanks to hospice support, she died comfortably in our home. She was 61.

Julie was joyously cynical, mildly paranoid, a superb cook, stubborn as a mule, a good mother, a supportive and loving wife and a hell of a bridge player. She loved games of all sorts, and was a voracious reader, a sharp debater, a WordPerfect fanatic.

On LiveJournal, she was pheontoo, though she rarely posted, using the account to read friends-only posts. Julie is survived by me pheon, our daughter kyrielle, our son-in-law terram, her cousin Beth, a number of sisters, nieces, nephews, grand-nieces, and grand-nephews, all back in Ohio.

I'll miss you, Mommy. And remember you. And I love you, always.


Marilyn said...

Oh, sweetie, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. What a beautiful tribute your Dad wrote. Big hugs.

Kara said...

Laura, I am so sorry. Even when you know it's coming you are never prepared. It will hurt for awhile but hold on to the happy memories and take comfort from others. Your Dad wrote a nice tribute - blessings to him.. You are in my thoughts and I send you lots of sympathy.

donna said...

Oh Laura, so sad for you. I lost my dad to lung cancer at age 65, I lost my mom 3 years ago to diverticulitis complications. Another good friend of mine just lost his father yesterday.

It's so hard to lose both parents right at the holidays. I hope you can find some peace in the season somehow, perhaps in memories of them.

May you know peace. Take care...